Growing up we learned manners. We didn't want to hurt someone's feelings if we felt the truth would hurt. So we kept things inside. If someone slights us I think we are somewhat shocked by what they are saying and it causes us to be quiet while we think about what was said and how we want to react. The moment may have passed where we could have responded.
Val’s POV resonated so hard with my experiences when I was young. That’s the journey I’m on now as an adult, knowing when politeness serves me and when it serves me to set a boundary
Julian, I hope that seeing yourself in the story is helpful. I feel that we often have to pause as we decide if we’re going to say what is really on our mind. Thank you for your comment.
Growing up we learned manners. We didn't want to hurt someone's feelings if we felt the truth would hurt. So we kept things inside. If someone slights us I think we are somewhat shocked by what they are saying and it causes us to be quiet while we think about what was said and how we want to react. The moment may have passed where we could have responded.
You’re so right, Barbara! Well described.
What struck me here is how silence shows up in both ordinary slights and our deepest relationships, shaping us in ways we rarely admit
How do we learn to tell which silences protect us and which ones quietly cost us too much?
Practice? Feeling and seeing the results? Each instance can be so different.
Makes sense
Afterall, we only learn by doing
Your insights are remarkably on target. Life’s lessons learned shared with others. Thanks!
Thanks Susan! I appreciate your comment and support!!
Val’s POV resonated so hard with my experiences when I was young. That’s the journey I’m on now as an adult, knowing when politeness serves me and when it serves me to set a boundary
Julian, I hope that seeing yourself in the story is helpful. I feel that we often have to pause as we decide if we’re going to say what is really on our mind. Thank you for your comment.
No problem!!